The Pregnancy Bonding Programme in Milton keynes, UK

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence
(NICE) recommends that the importance of bonding and emotional attachment should be discussed with parents before birth.

It goes on to state that advice about bonding together with approaches that can help parents bond with their unborn babies should be offered to ALL pregnant women.

However, a survey of over 1000 expectant Mums commissioned by the Infant-Parent Foundation in 2023 found the following:

73% of women surveyed said that information and advice about bonding or building a relationship with their baby was NOT GIVEN throughout their pregnancy.

15% of women said that bonding and attachment was ONLY DISCUSSED AFTER their baby was born.

64% of women who had attended 5 or more antenatal appointments said NOBODY had talked to them about bonding during their antenatal care.

71% of women said they would have liked MORE SUPPORT during their pregnancy to bond with their baby.

Tim Loughton MP, Chair of the All-Party Parliamentary Group (APPG) for Conception to Age 2 said:

“The first 1001 Days movement is promoting the need for strong attachment between baby and parents from the very earliest stage, to give children the very best start in life. Getting it right from the outset – when a child’s brain is developing exponentially – is fundamental to setting a child on the right track to a successful and nurturing childhood and has life long implications.

“It is worrying that so may parents still feel that support is not being prioritised, when everyone agrees how important it is. It really is a false economy socially and financially that we are still missing this opportunity in too many cases.”

Poor parental attachment not only impacts on the individual but it also has implications and wider costs for society.

Research has found that young people with insecure attachments to their mothers cost a third more than those with secure attachments, amounting to an average difference of £3,500 per year.

The cost difference for insecure attachments to fathers is even more substantial, at £12,700 per year.

These increased social costs stem from factors such as more school meetings, referrals to social services, and appointments with NHS Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services.

Insecure attachment is also fundamentally linked to an increase in anti-social behaviours and conduct disorders including violent offending, drug misuse, teenage parenthood, and reliance on state benefits. The estimated cost in adulthood for typical conduct disorder cases in the UK is £260,000 per person.

Intervention at the earliest point during pregnancy to enhance the child-parent attachment could reduce antisocial behaviour and improve life outcomes.

It should be remembered that the quality of the parent-child relationship has broader social and financial implications beyond individual psychological well-being.